You’ve signed up for your own Wedding Wishlist. Now, all that’s left is for you to choose the gifts themselves. Plenty of brides and grooms try to take the finances of their friends and families into consideration while making their Wishlists. Though that’s a sweet gesture, it defeats the purpose of having a Wishlist entirely! The whole point is to ask for what you need rather than what you think people would like to give you. Do you want mounds of unusable silverware and plaques? Didn’t think so! We wouldn’t either.
Weddings in India are synonymous with breathtaking locations, elaborate ensembles, delicious buffets and customary gifting for the bride and groom. After all the naach-gaana, fun, frolic and those hectic days, every couple looks forward to a new life filled with lovely presents which will help them set up a new home.
I remember 20 years back when I was getting married our very close Punjabi relatives and friends had no awkwardness in asking my parent’s frankly about the gift they should be bringing for my wedding. Their intent was three-pronged, one not to give something that would go waste, second not to duplicate any gift and three was to lessen the economic burden of the newly married couple. Some of the gifts that we got in our wedding until today are very dear & precious to my wife and me.
In the Golden Olden days, marriages were predominantly need-based – arranged (by parents) where the bride and the groom just give their consent (sometimes namesake) to their parents; marriages were formal and strict with rituals while ensuring the groom’s side is well taken care of and no displeasure is created by any chance.
Do you find it weird to disclose your choice of wedding gifts to your guests? Do you think it’s awkward to compel your guests to purchase a gift opted by you? Do not worry!