An Open Letter to the Parents of the Bride and Groom

Parents of the bride
Parents of the bride

Dear parents of the bride/groom, 

I have no idea what you’re going through right now. I’m not a parent and I’m not a bride, so it’s totally unfair to say that I understand. But I AM married, and I know what my big day meant to my parents. So if I extrapolate from that, I can only imagine how heartbreaking this lockdown phase must be for you! After all, it wasn’t just your little girl or boy who was waiting for his/her big day. It was also you, who spent your entire life thinking about the day they’d say ‘I do’.

You saved for it. Planned for it. You took care of every painstaking detail to make sure it all went perfectly, as parents often do. Invited all your loved ones to share the joy with you. You couldn’t wait to welcome a new person into your family. Until the pandemic struck. 

And now you have to manage the mess that Corona has left behind. You have to see your child heartbroken as their wedding date gets pushed indefinitely. You have to manage all the canceled bookings and wasted resources. And you have to let go of all the savings you so lovingly put into your child’s wedding, knowing that most of it has just gone to waste. It hurts. 

But I guess that’s the beautiful part of being a parent, the ability to put a brave face through it all for your child’s sake. I have no idea how you do it, but you somehow always do. And while no one knows when this will get over, someday it will. In the meantime, all we can do is focus on the positives—you’ve got to spend so much quality time with your child before he/she embarks on a new life journey. This time has made us all kinder, more patient, and more prudent about the future, and hopefully, these learnings will strengthen your child’s marriage. And most importantly they’re safe, healthy, and with you.  So here’s a big hug to the constant frontline warriors for every child—their loving, amazing parents. And I’m sure, whenever and however the wedding happens, it will be one to remember!

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Tanvi Saraf

Tanvi Saraf is a writer, editor and traveller who's recently moved to the south. Having worked with the country's leading publications, including Marie Claire, India Today, Harper's Bazaar Bride and L'officiel, she now heads marketing for WeddingWishlist.com & CherryTin.com. Her life's philosophy and choices are guided by her motto, "Enjoy it. Because it's happening", and with both our websites, she's all set to bring the joy back to gifting.

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